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From: Sridhar
Date: Aug 3, 2009 4:31 PM
Subject: Re: Kudos to PallekuPodam
To: "Dr. Tangirala S Reddy"


Hey,
I talked to few of the past committee mbmers and presidents before I
sent the email to you. What kind of a sensible letter is this? You
have such idotic responses. You are going somewhere else and
twisting around the subjects? When did I say I did not enjoy? Read
your emails properly first. I haven't seen any president writing these
kinds of emails. Since you came this far, let me tell you, someone
from your group saying you were just sitting and giving directions to
someone even there was a paper to be en into the trash or a table to
move on, don't ask me for names. You know yourself better. You have the
same nawabi attittude. My family and my self ( 12 & 7 year olds )
cleaned others mess. When a president himself is like that attitude
what can I expect from others. Anyway except you and girish nobody
showed attitudes like this. That is the same reason it was such an
ugly situation in telugu community during the elections last year.

They will laugh at you , if I show this email in the telugu community,
a president writing these kinds of responses.It's a shame that we have
to deal this kind of President who doesn't know how to resolve a
simple situation? All I said there should be an amicable situation and
his attitude was wrong towards the members of telugu community. Talk
to your own people if his attitude towards others was right?


There is a vemana padyamu also,
Alpudeppudu palku aadhabharamu gaanu ....

Yadha raja tadha praja

pitchoni chetilo kobbarikaya

Shunakanni gadde nekkisthe ...

If I start writing there will be endless poems and sayings on you.

I feel extremely sorry that I came to your program despite
discouraging statements from others.

I put my concern to the executive body you are advertising to telugu
community .

Let me show this letter to other presidents and the community.

Now you can say whatever you want, I will send these responses to telugu
community ....

On 8/3/09, Dr. Tangirala S Reddy wrote:
Sridhar,
You mean just imbibe Palle and forget everything. Again you are
misunderstanding me. This event need to be supported by everybody and not
just comments. There is a saying Panilenodi pani vagadame. NOt everybody
need to work if everybody follow the rules nobody need to work. 99.99%
enjoyed and we need NOT to to give damn to that 0.001%.Even in your house
functions you will have threse kinds mishaps happen all the time. If you
talk about our culture, then our culture did not teach us to make dirty
where ever you go. You do the mistake and if some body says anything then
you have to accept the mistake. Where did you imbibe this culture. If you
still do not agree, I can not help you.

Thanks Satyanarayana,

On Mon, Aug 3, 2009 at 2:50 PM, Sridhar wrote:

We are trying imbibe in palle and show palle culture. Though this is
not a "athidhi devo bhava" program, it's part of our palle culture.
And without knowing who showed the attitude, and who did not help, one
cannot show frustration on everybody. One or two times we can
understand, nobody will take someone's frustrations all the time and
they are also HUMANS as you said. I wrote on behalf of who were
suffered. As I said to you earlier, we were few of us who helped
voluntarily not by designation, cleanup work. More than 200 people
were there, and not everybody have work and need to work. I went there
to pacify him, it was the wrong place and wrong time to show
frustration, he misunderstood me, as if I am accusing him. Part of our
culture is also to accept our mistakes.

Just because you are one of the below three, you cannot exepress your
anger on 80% of the people.

1. Donors and service oriented (very few) less than 1%

2. Donors (they give money only) 5%

3. Service oriented only (they give time) 10%
Do the service from the beginning
Service when they are requested for voluntry work


4. Just talkers. Neither they help nor do they donate. (My version is
loose talkers) more than 80 %

When you have accepted 80% people election, you should be prepared to
face their rejection too( not that everybody rejected). You cannot run
an organization with 15% of those good souls. In an organization you
have to face everybody and need everybody. Also, one or the othertime
everybody loose talked without doing any of the above, you feel the
pinch only when you are at the receiving end. Nobody is above this,
you would be deceiving your conscience if you said no.

My bad, I meant the people in public service or in executive
committees cannot show their attitudes.

As I said, we were expressing concerns from receiving end to get to
everyone's notice so that this wouldn't happen in the future.


Therefore, one should NOT comment the way they wanted.

I don't know who commented on what, but as far as I am concerned
except for the last program given preference before gemini program,
because they were waiting in the make up for long time in the muggy
weather, and they rehearsed the programt for three weeks. I did not
comment to anybody, I was agreeing to this with one of the previous
president in the sidelines.Other than that I do not have any issues
with any of the things.
If anybody is not happy with that kind suggestion then next time TAMA
should put a banner,
THIS IS HOW WE DO IT, WE DO NOT ACCEPT ANY COMMENTS OR SUGGESTIONS

There will end the matter.


Sridhar


On 8/3/09, Dr. Tangirala S Reddy wrote:


Sridhar,

Thank you for being the part of the program and helping at the Palle.

However, it is not "Athidhi devo bhava" program as we are NOT in India
or treating some one as Athidhi. We are not public servants either as you
mentioned. Public servant means "A person who holds a Government position by
election or appointment". Your statement is good only when it is a marriage
or birthday party and an invitee or guest at some one's place. As you
mentioned, we are a community/social organization, this is a social event
and this program needs volunteers. Every participant need to think that
this is our program. We are also human beings and we do have frustrations
and anger.

In every community organization we have four kinds of people.

1. Donors and service oriented (very few)
2. Donors (they give money only)
3. Service oriented only (they give time)
4. Just talkers. Neither they help nor do they donate. (My version is
loose talkers)

As you mentioned,

TAMA is a community organization; no one's effort can make it any
event a success. TAMA has been successful organization so far, though
we have seen some broken into pieces during last year elections. We
don't want to endanger TAMA's integrity by individual attitudes, and
anti-social ettiquettes

I like this sentence. If people show their attitude, then other human
being will also show in a similar way. Therefore, one should NOT comment the
way they wanted. As you mentioned it is community event and community it
self denotes involvement of all and NOT just one man army. Once again, I
would like to clearly mention to you that this is not a marriage or birthday
function invited by me at my home. As you stated it is a community
organization and community event and one must involve by themselves by
helping each other or one must keep quite.

This is my 2 cents..............., based on my little experience. If
you have any questions, please give me a call. XXX-XXX-XXXX

Thank you,
Satyanarayana Reddy


On Mon, Aug 3, 2009 at 11:47 AM, Sridhar wrote:
---------- Forwarded message ----------
From: Sridhar
Date: Aug 3, 2009 11:39 AM
Subject: Kudos to PallekuPodam
To: --


Kudos to the executive team for arranging such a great socail outing
at Hard Labor Creek Park. It was an excellent thought and executed
to near perfection. I commend your efforts.

Some of the highlights were:
Family Arrangements
Suprabhatam & bhakti patalu
Haridasu wakeup call with green tooth brushes
Vana bhojanamu
Yeruvaka saagaro by chinnarulu
Eka patrabhinayamu, etc ..


Unfortunately, Mrs. Puvvada, broke her hand during kabaddi event, I
wish her speedy recovery.

TAMA is a community organization, no one's effort can make it any
event a success. TAMA has been successful organization so far,
though we have seen some broken into pieces during last year elections. We
don't want to endanger TAMA's integrity by individual attitudes, and
anti-social ettiquettes.

I am compelled to send this email based on my experience at
pallekupodam, I have few suggestions, as TAMA executive members
always wanted our input.

Being in executive committee and a public servant, one cannot and
should not comment on the same guests who elected them, as
"senseless,uncooperative", violating the Palle culture of "Athidhi devo bhava".
Just because you made a good product, cannot say clients are dumb.
There were parents and kids of the guests who might not have obliged
house rules, which is a known fact in desi events. Guests were there
to enjoy and their help was VOLUNTARY based on request, not by
DEFAULT. Infact, guests did help when they were requested through
announcements.

I felt the same as previous president's comment, last drama should
have been given preference to the Gemini program. That was the only
comment I had and I stick to that. Comments and complements go hand
in hand, take comments as steps to success, and people are bound to
make comments, it's part of event package. Admit mistakes, try not to
repeat mistakes and move forward that should be motto for any event.

I experienced in this event, members changing statements/parties for
their individual gains when justifying someone, that will only make
other members think twice before coming to any of the events.

Finally, just because someone expressed their opinion, I request not
to meddle with the upcoming talents, be it's mine or someone else's,
I hope.

I regret bringing these issues, but had to express for the sake of
well being of TAMA, rest lies on TAMA exec. body's justification.

Regards,
Sridhar